Source: Analects, "Yong Ye"
A good person with something that cannot be changed; consider honestly whether you can accept it.
Repeated twice, "such a man, yet such an illness" is a deep lament: a good person with something that cannot be changed. In love, see clearly the problem that cannot be avoided, decide whether you can accept it, and don't assume it will change by itself.
| Single | When you like someone, look at their difficulties as well as their strengths. |
|---|---|
| Dating | There is a hard problem; face it honestly and judge whether you can live with it. |
| Married | Accept your partner's imperfections with understanding rather than blame. |
From the Analects: when the disciple Boniu fell gravely ill, Confucius visited, held his hand through the window and sighed: "We are losing him; it is fate! That such a man should have such an illness!" A lament for misfortune falling on a good person.
Text: the 100-lot Matchmaker (Yue Lao) oracle used in Taiwan. Most lots quote classical texts; sources were checked against the originals, obvious copying errors corrected, and uncertain sources marked as such.
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