Source: Analects, "Zi Lu"
Haste spoils things; don't trade the big picture for small gains.
"Haste prevents arrival; chasing small gains spoils great things." Don't rush love, nor fuss over small matters; build it steadily and it will last.
| Single | Don't rush to define things; take time to know each other. |
|---|---|
| Dating | Don't quibble over little things; look long-term. |
| Married | Plan big family matters slowly; avoid short-term gains. |
From the Analects: when Zixia became governor of Jufu and asked about governing, Confucius said, "Don't be hasty, don't look for small gains; haste means you won't arrive, and small gains ruin great affairs."
Text: the 100-lot Matchmaker (Yue Lao) oracle used in Taiwan. Most lots quote classical texts; sources were checked against the originals, obvious copying errors corrected, and uncertain sources marked as such.
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