Source: Zhuangzi, "Signs of Full Virtue"
This isn't what real feeling is; look calmly.
"That is not what I mean by feeling." What you call love may be only passing likes, dislikes or attachment. Look calmly: is it real affection, or stubbornness, loneliness or pride?
| Single | Tell liking from loneliness before you commit. |
|---|---|
| Dating | Check whether this relationship comes from the heart. |
| Married | In arguments, don't let emotions wound each other. |
From Zhuangzi: Huizi asked, "Are people really without feelings?" Zhuangzi said, "That is not what I mean by feeling. By having no feelings I mean not letting likes and dislikes harm one's inner self."
Text: the 100-lot Matchmaker (Yue Lao) oracle used in Taiwan. Most lots quote classical texts; sources were checked against the originals, obvious copying errors corrected, and uncertain sources marked as such.
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