Source: Mencius, "Teng Wen Gong II"
A love that ignores family and propriety is hard to bless; talk things through.
This lot quotes only "then parents and countrymen all despise them"; the preceding words describe eloping without the parents' blessing. A love that ignores family and propriety is hard to bless. Talk with your family and win their understanding before going further.
| Single | Let family and friends meet the person; hear their view. |
|---|---|
| Dating | If family objects, talk it through rather than act rashly. |
| Married | Tend relations with both families as well as with each other. |
From Mencius: every man wishes for a wife and every woman for a home; but if they do not wait for parents' consent and a matchmaker, peep through holes and climb walls to meet, then parents and countrymen will despise them.
Text: the 100-lot Matchmaker (Yue Lao) oracle used in Taiwan. Most lots quote classical texts; sources were checked against the originals, obvious copying errors corrected, and uncertain sources marked as such.
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